On Complaining


It’s easy to complain. You can hate everything, especially when living in another country. Key word: another country. People are different, food different, lifestyle, working style, this, that and everything, different.

I’d like to think that if we signed up to work in a different country (which takes a whole lot of time and effort to do), that we’d know that it will be foreign – a land that’s not yours. Nacho Land! <- doesn’t work I guess.

But, NOOOooOOOO! There’s so much wrong with where you work, with the people you work with, everything about where you live, sucks. And, to top it off, there’s nowhere to find organic-free-range-yogurt, I have to settle with the normal stuff. FML.

Proverbs says, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

If you saw everything as something that sucks, the life will get sucked out of you. I feel like this means all major aspects including people. No one wants to be around Negative Nancy, Complaining Charles, or Blaming Barney <- I came up with this one, and I like it. So as with dried up bones, all the things that give life and make it beautiful are non-existent, gone, kaput. And, you’re left alone, as it seems you want to be – sad, dark, depressed. We’ve all been there, and hopefully we’ve gotten out, or have asked for help to get out.

There are some though who keep going with the negativity, not listening to friends’ advice, it’s not fun. People get tired, and if they continue with this Damned Daniel, their joy also gets crushed – like pack of Oreos at the bottom of your school bag, how sad.

It’s a viscous cycle of death.

But wait, there’s hope. If you just pick yourself up (because you feel alone don’t you), and listen to people – actually make friends and not people to complain to, you can make it. I promise. Or, you can just leave your situation. The choice is yours.

“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” – Maya Angelou




On Protests 

It’s a good time to be in the wonderful country of South Korea. They’ve accomplished something that has never happened in the history of Korean democracy, the impeachment of a president. An amazing part about it is that they succeeded through peaceful protests 🙌.

That’s what most people are talking about on the interweb, and so many are comparing it to American “violent” protests against the president elect, or He Who Must Not Be Named.

Many are saying that Americans have a lot to learn from Korean protests, but I think they’re focusing on the wrong ideal we’re missing. It’s not the peaceful part we’re missing, it’s unity.

An estimated 1.5 million people coming from all parts of life met in the capital asking for the resignation of President Park. You can watch videos online of young and old sharing the streets calling for justice. Wow!

A colleague of mine talked about going to the protest with her whole family, including children and grandparents, with enthusiasm and excitement.

This is what we need in the land of the “free”. Peace is definitely important, but I think unity is key.

America is huge! And because of the diversity of beliefs and value systems, people have issues with everything. There’s no one thing that Americans really dislike together. In the big ‘C’ Church, that I’m a part of, if you disagree on something, just make a new denomination in your own building. Unity.

I will continue to use the Church as my example for this disunity, as I have experience with many different styles of church and went to a Christian liberal arts college (you may see my thoughts of this in the future).

I’ll keep this short.

Imagine if the church was unified on one soul purpose. The world would be a different place, I think. But alas, we are divided, and think that my denomination can do something different than yours, but actually we’re doing the exact same thing. Unity.
Is it possible in the “United” States of America? Change has happened through unified protests in the past. Can it happen again? The world will never know, maybe.

On The “War” on Christmas


(I hope you are reading this just out of curiosity and not because you give a what what about this “war”)

I’m writing this as I listen to She & Him Christmas and think about this festive time of year. We have events a-happening, gifts a-giving and food a-eating (I guess that one doesn’t really work).

This morning, I started thinking about ‘Christmas’: what it means, how it sounds, and why we have it.  Wait, scratch all that, what’s most important is obviously that there’s a “war” on it.

I mean, really!  Imagine if Christmas lost this war and our wonderful songs being sung with a “Merry X-Mas” or “Happy Holidays” instead of a “Merry Christmas”. This would just be plain silly. There’s no flow if you sang, “Have yourself a merry little X-Mas.” My favorite Christmas song would sound terrible if it was sung like this, “Although it’s been said many times, many ways, Happy Holidays to you.” This is just ludicrous. I feel like I could stop here and you’d say, “Man that would suck!” But, there’s more!

What about how I’ve greeted and been greeted by family, friends and coworkers in the different places I’ve lived during this holiday?! It’s always been “Merry Christmas”; at least I think it has. Is it just because all of the people who are nearest and dearest to me are sensible people and they don’t care about this “war”? Maybe… but clearly more likely is that many of them are afraid to share their true hatred towards this phrase.  If Christmas lost, I’m sure they’d just stop saying it entirely.

But seriously, in the back of my head I think the media is at war against all of humanity’s joy. What a surprise! No one gives a fudge about this, but the media says that we do, and then some of us end up at “war” about it.

But why even care? Why must we have this “war”? Why even celebrate Christmas? If you don’t like it, make your own holiday and sing your own holiday songs. I can picture a bitter and lonely person, sitting with their dinner for one, singing “We wish you a Happy Holidays, we wish you a Happy Holidays, and a Happy New Year,” while watching A Christmas Story, and sulking because of the joy that people get from “Christmas”.

So, I’m asking, from the bottom of my heart, please don’t ruin this for us. If you care about it, keep it to yourself, or don’t celebrate this “Christian holiday” (I can write a whole other article about this, but to save time and breath I won’t. If you wanna know, just talk to me). Let’s do as the Jackson 5 once sang and “Give love on Christmas day”, there’s enough war out there so stop caring about this meaningless one.