On Moving

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It’s not fun, no no no. I beg you. Unless you’re a baller and can afford to pay people to move for you, simplify your life, NOW!

Give away stuff that doesn’t bring you joy, sift through all and everything and get rid of it. I’d even say don’t give it to your friends, just donate if you can. I don’t really want to be responsible for friends having more stuff, unless it’s absolutely useful.

I like to think that I don’t have a lot of stuff, but I really envy those with much less stuff than I have. So, in conclusion, I have a lot of stuff.

My wife and I have moved 5 times in our 6 years of marriage. You’d think we were pros. Not really. But we are learning still. I guess that’s the first step.

Go and move no more. Or, go and accumulate stuff no more.

On Extremes 


WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

It seems like these days people oppose the extreme of the opposite of what they believe. We throw around the word ‘hate’ so much that it turns us into haters  (just don’t say that to our face).

As social media posters, we have the responsibility to back up what we support. It’s easy to sit on your couch and ‘like’ ‘like’ ‘like’, but it’s takes effort to BE about what you’re for. 

Don’t be a hater if you’re not gonna bring change to the things you hate. Or, try and bring peace and understand both sides of the argument. 

I think that’s the better way. 

Consider what you support and why. Will it make the life of your family and community better? How? Then, go do the how.

Don’t be a clicker of buttons or swiper of screens. Be about something and show that you believe in it.

Or if you want, let the darkness of hateration for the “other side” take over as you weep and gnash your teeth at those who oppose you. Don’t be a Pharisee son!

Peace.

On Basketball in Korea (a short)


I enjoy me some sports – watching, playing. B-ball is my favorite, and I’m happy to see live NBA games being shown on Korean television.

I’m even more pleased to hear the words “slam dunk” instead of what I hear from most people here, “dunk shot” – it’s just so weird. When I hear “dunk shot”, it makes me squirm inside, and I automatically correct it. 

I’m weird. I know. 

Thanks for saying “slam dunk” Korean announcers! 👏

On Korean Music

It’s more than KPOP.

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I really enjoy me some music, music of all sorts – I’ll listen to anything (except for Trot). Living in Korea, you can’t help but get sucked into the world of KPOP. It’s everywhere – inside clothing stores, outside of restaurants, at cafes, schools, and bowling alleys.

My appreciation for music and teaching of middle school students has caused me to delve in the world of Korean Pop Music, and like all Pop music of the world, there’s the good and the terrible.

If you’re interested in giving KPOP a try, I suggest checking out the groups that have been around a while. I’m a big fan of BIGBANG – start with them.

KPOP is not all there is to the Korean music scene, but in order to discover Non-Pop music, you have to do sift through the millions and millions of KPOP acts. I’ve done just that, and I wanna share a few of the artists that I’ve found worth while.

  1.  OOHYO (synth pop) – Fun and quirky and chill, she has a Poppy feel but also quite original (in the Korean music sense). Suggested songs: Girl Sense, Youth, UTO
  2. BYE BYE BADMAN (electronic rock) – Their recent album Authentic has a laid back feel, it’s summery – music you can groove to. Saw them twice in concert – fun stuff. Suggested songs – Island Island, Lovelouse, Young Wave
  3. HYUKOH (indie rock) – Known to most Koreans (which is good), they are super musically talented. Their music is quite mellow, but they have a lively side as well. Suggested songs – Wi ing Wi ing, Gondry, Mer
  4. Neon Bunny (electronic pop) – Stay Gold is my favorite Korean album of all time. Just give it a listen. If you don’t like it, then we don’t have the same taste in music and you can find your own Non-Pop music. Suggested songs – Room 314, Romance in Seoul, the whole frikkin album!

Other good non-Pop music – Primary (hip-hop), J Rabbit (cafe music?), Cheeze (indie pop)

Go, and seize the music!

On Time

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“Like sands through the hour glass, so are the days of our lives.” (cue the violins)

Time.

What do we do with it?

Do we waste it?

Do we enjoy it?

Do we value it?

Who do we spend it with?

Where are we during most of it?

As 2016 comes to an end, I’m looking back and reflecting on how I spent my time. The Critic that I am looks at wasted time first and thinks, “Man, I can’t get that time back”. In order to eliminate these patterns of wasted time, I must ask myself the question: How can I value my time more? This is a discipline- not a fun concept, but so necessary in regards to time.

The Justifier in me speaks, saying, “You balance your time well. You should always have some lazy time.” This is true, but was my lazy time spent wisely? Did I feel rested after it? Usually not.

Often times, I ask myself: What did people do back in the day when there wasn’t all this tech everywhere? What did I do before Game Boys and the Internet and Text Messaging and Smart Phones and Super Smart Phones?

I don’t even know.

I mean I know, but do I want to do what I should do in my ‘free time’?

Here’s a list of what I (and maybe you) should be doing more. If you are already on this track, then I applaud you.

  1. Reading – not just fluff or easy stuff, but stuff that makes you think as well. We should learn how to value physical books and articles so not to tempt ourselves to delve into the digital.
  2. Reflecting – also includes meditation or just silent time in general. No screen time, no noise, nothing. Super uncomfortable for me. I find myself telling myself that after 5 minutes or so, that was good enough. Maybe 5 minutes 5 times a day would be good, hmmmm.
  3. Relaxing – doing things that don’t stress us one bit. As a teacher, I’ve learned that a relaxing vacation makes a happy teacher (I gotta work on this one). Really though, beach time laying out in the sun, drink in hand, book to read, notebook to write, food to snack on. You get the picture. After a week or so of this, I’m ready to tackle whatever the world gives me.

I’ll leave it at the unintentional, now intentional Three R’s. They’re a good place to start. Also, find a good friend to help you talk through stuff and the changes that may happen because of the Three R’s. Maybe you will inspire people, as others have inspired me, to think about doing these things more in their ‘free’ time.

Why should we do this? I believe this time helps us give better time to our work and especially to other people. Life shouldn’t be all about me, that would suck, it should be about giving our best to others. Half-assing work and relationships is lazy and disrespectful to others and yourself.

Learning how to spend your rest time well will hopefully give you what it takes to be good, or at least respectable to others.

The late great fantastically fashioned man Craig Sager said:

Time is something that cannot be bought, it cannot be wagered with God, and it’s not in endless supply. Time is simply how you live your life.

Something to ponder before, during and after the New Year. Sweet Christmas!

The Times We Live in (a short)

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My students were practicing a Christmas song for a mini festival at school.

One I’ve never heard of before.

As I read the lyrics, mixed emotions of humor, confusion and sadness came upon me.

Is this truly the world we live in today? Have we resulted in using humor to eggsagerate our sad “connected” lives?

Some may say I over analyze things. I say people don’t use discernment much these days.

SMH.

Whatchu think?

Here’s the link (WARNING YOU CAN’T UNLISTEN TO THIS):  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2CuCPNumKw

On Community

So cliche, but a necessary thing to write about, especially to show appreciation for the people in your life, if you have them. I hope you have some good ones. I do #blessed. 

But really though, to quote Dilated Peoples, “Worst comes to worst my peoples come first.” 

I’m thankful and I need to be more thankful for the good friends that I’m so fortunate to have. 

Y’all have challenged me to grow and keep growing as a person – in thought and deed. And, although we don’t see eye to eye on things (never surround yourself with people who agree with everything you do), God has used all of y’all to help me see life in a different way.

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity

When I need someone to chat with, y’all make yourselves available. 

When I need a drink or two, after a hard day, y’all come through.
Thanks. 🙏 

We break bread together, special times of celebration, times full of love and support, and valuable conversations. 

That’s what community means to me. I hope I’ve returned it to you. And for those who need it, I can try and show you love, too. I’m filled to the brim because my fam shows me so much 💛. Werd.

Be in community with people, specially with those who are nearby – you can easily holler to when you need to shoot the ish. Show people their importance in your life, they need to see that. If you don’t feel like it, you ain’t a good friend – ain’t no body got time for someone who takes but gives nothing.